A Letter to My Last Year Self

Hey dearest,

The new year I prayed about, the beginning of the new decade I envisioned is now here. I made mistakes which I learnt from, and had successful days, which I need to keep stirring. I made friends, met new people but there are some things I need to learn and unlearn this year.

Financial Education

Last year, extravagant spending was at its peak. No orientation of financial management, so any money I got was spent on liabilities which continuously took money away from me rather than add to it, which later ended in the waste bin. I am writing you now that though the money can’t be recovered, you can learn frugal spending, invest and make utmost use of the money you have to store up assets than liability.

Avoid Toxic Friends

I had no idea of the different kind of friends that exist. I saw everyone as friends not knowing that there are those who will prevent your growth; some will stop you from thinking outside the box, just within your arm-reach. Little did I know that friends that prevent such should be walked away from. And those friends that keep you going, cheering and giving you ideas of how to soar, should be drawn closer.

 Now, I’ve learnt to walk away from everything that prevents me from soaring and this includes toxic friends.

{Read: On Friendship and Letting Go}

You’re the Only One You Can Count On

After God, you can only count on yourself. Agnes said it all, in life’s challenge, no one helps you out, no one gets tempted on your behalf. I know that deep down, don’t you?

Do not rely completely on any other human being, however dear. We meet all life’s greatest tests alone.

Agnes Macphail

No one is looking out for you. If you know what’s best for you, climb up the ladder by yourself though you might meet someone up the ladder with your best interest at heart but for now, yes this moment, trust yourself and walk on your strength and weakness.

This doesn’t mean that there aren’t people who will cheer you on for the longest time. Just don’t rely so much on people that you forget to cheer yourself on and get hurt when there is no one looking out for you.

Seek God

Yes, one of the main things to do.

In the previous year, I did not seek God on a regular basis and I got the result of that, which was a common result. Because I used my common sense in some cases and all I got was ordinary.

I kept God in his place and created my own space; neither was stressing the other but God’s still voice was constantly calling me. Now, all I need to do is lay it all at his feet and I know this year is not going to yield ordinary result. Sorry dear, I am letting go of that old me that is independent on God.

You’re Not Who They Say You Are

Other people’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality.

Les Brown

Yes, I have been living in other people’s realities without realizing what I want. This is because each time I always want to impress people, I want them to say good about me, forgetting that no matter how much I try, I still won’t meet their expectations. Now, I have chosen to follow my reality because no one knows it better than I do and when in confusion? I’d seek God.

Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.

Lao Tzu

You would be locked up in the prison of their own opinion, you can’t make it outside their walls, their opinion is final. Not again this year!

Love Yourself

Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.

Lucille Ball

This is another hard one, huh?

It’s so difficult to love yourself when you’ve been told you’re unlovable by the people who were supposed to love you the most. You are just as worthy of love as anyone else is.

You are working hard to become the person you want to be, and that is something to love. Your goals are noble. You are constantly looking for ways to help others, and that’s a pretty lovable trait. You deserve to be treated with kindness, respect, and love, so be open to it, especially when it’s coming from yourself.

The moment you start loving yourself without the opinion of others, you get a perfect cheer you need, why? ~ you’re your only greatest cheer leader.

Everything is Temporary

“Everything is temporary; emotions, thoughts, people, and scenery. Do not become attached. Just flow with it.” –Anonymous

Everything you are feeling and will feel is temporary. I know sometimes it’s unimaginably painful, but I promise it won’t last forever, so hold on tight. I’ll always be here to help you get through it. Similarly, the good things are temporary too. But, don’t be saddened by that. Instead, know it and take the time to enjoy the positive.

You deserve to celebrate all of your successes, and you are certainly allowed to be happy.

Finally…

All that has happened,and will happen to you will continue to shape who you are for the rest of your life. Without each of these experiences, you would not be you. They were and are necessary for you to learn and grow. They have taught you more than anyone can possibly imagine.

You have learned to be stronger than you ever thought possible; stronger than you even know right now, and to take nothing for granted.

Remember, I love you and I believe in you! It may not always seem like it, but it’s true. I will never give up on you. That’s how we have made it this far, and it’s how we’ll get where we have always wanted to go.

My dearest,
Oreoluwa (your new decade self)


If you were to say something to your last year self, what would you say? Share with me in the comments below and don’t forget to subscribe to this blog to not miss a post.


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