Rejection is a feeling. We are humans with the ability to feel and connect to the world. But what happens when someone or group of persons are not in accordance with our thought, feeling, skills, ability or any other thing we hold in high regard?
Rejection is universal. We all have rejected people’s request. We all have been rejected. We know when to say ‘Yes’ and when to give ‘No’ for an answer. When rejection comes our way, it strikes a chord in us and touches some deep part of us especially on things we hold in high esteem.
We all fear rejection, but it doesn’t stop it from occurring as long as we are pushing beyond the brim of ourselves, setting up new dreams, goals, skills, ideas and influence.
We are bound to face rejection in pursuit of excellence. Whenever we are rejected in the quest of becoming stronger or more successful, we should never give up but look forward at opportunities even while others are not seeing it.Click to tweet
Below are 6 ways you can overcome rejection:
1. Redefine Rejection
What is your definition of rejection? Do you see rejection as a way your whole-being is being rejected? Reframe your definition of rejection. See rejection as a way of Preference. When you see rejection as a way of preference it helps to condition your mind appropriately. Do not be ashamed, shame doesn’t work. It robs you of your ability to think properly. Making yourself an object of shame does not change the situation, it rather brings you down and makes a negative effect on your self-esteem.
2. Develop Poise
Most actors and actresses experience rejection more than often. Singers, footballers and so on also experience rejection from time to time. But that shouldn’t stop them from achieving their purpose. Most people have developed poise over the state of rejection. Such people never get too sticky with people’s opinion and general acceptance.
Poise is a perfect balance, equanimity of body and mind, complete composure whatever the social scene.Muriel Spark
Let your tone, posture and action depict confidence. Your self-confidence matters a lot.Click to tweet
Developing poise over rejection will help condition the state of your mind and give you an edge over limiting situation. Make use of your gesture correctly and ensure your shoulders are well-placed.
3. Practice Meditation
Meditation trains your mind and keeps you at alert. The mind is like an antenna; it retains whatever we have in our satellite (the environment) and transforms the data collected through the decoding system (like ears, eyes we have gotten) into relatable and human-readable form.
While meditating, you are within a mental circle of self- absorption. You think and feel well. You let go pains of rejection. Meditation heals the mind and allows you to focus on who you are. Meditation is not over-thinking. When you over-think, things get worse. Over-thinking brings about depression and depression steals away our joy making us completely sorrowful.
4. Be kind to yourself
After experiencing rejection, what do you do? Take care of yourself, love yourself and be kind to yourself. When you are kind to yourself and you admire the peaceful state of your mind, you won’t transfer aggression on innocent others. You can take a break from your normal environment to a new place, taking care of yourself, exploring new things, creating new ideas, meeting with new people.
Ensure you do things that matter to you and bring you joy.
5. Don’t take it personally
Have you ever make ‘NO’ an answer to people’s request? On what basis did you make such a decision? Everyone has rejected people’s offer before. Kids and adults are not left behind. We can say ‘NO’ to requests we cannot meet. When rejection comes your way, do not take it personally. Don’t get victimized by rejection.
Every great advance in natural knowledge has involved the absolute rejection of authority.Thomas Huxley
6. Get on the move
Man maintains his balance, poise, and sense of security only as he is moving forward.Maxwell Maltz
Move forward and never drag yourself off the spotlight. Focus on what really matters. Learn from rejection. Move on. Don’t involve yourself in the ‘rattle race’.
You are not mediocre because your talents, skills or resources were rejected. You can’t afford to be at the mercy of circumstance. You are greater than your fears.Click to tweet
You get better and better every single day you improve yourself. It might not seem like you are improving the right way but time will tell and you will be surprised at how much you have grown.
Got other ways to deal with rejection? Feel free to share in the comment section.