How to Rebuke in Love

The word “rebuke” is not so friendly, right? I know. Getting rebuked or corrected can be very painful at times; as it requires being truly honest with oneself, to see that you are actually in the wrong, and deserve to be scolded. Receiving rebuke is seeing yourself in accurate eyes! Now, however painful rebuking may … More How to Rebuke in Love

Beyond Goal Setting; Apply Effective Strategies

The process of becoming what you want to be is not an easy task. It requires being intentional. As you evolve into who you are being trained for, you may experience hindrances ranging from lack of support to lack of resources. There will also be people who may want to spite you and frustrate you because you do not look like “it” yet. … More Beyond Goal Setting; Apply Effective Strategies

On Keeping Boundaries

Boundaries are definitions – definitions of you. But when someone is trying to define you according to what they think, what do you do? How do you keep your boundaries?

Boundaries are meant to protect and guide you and not to limit you. Therefore, as you draw boundaries, keep them, know when to expand them, and expand them. … More On Keeping Boundaries

Let’s Talk About Gratitude

Do not shift gratitude to a later time, or for a greater good. Make it a huge part of your personality. Learn to say and mean thank you, every time, every where, to everyone.

To the security guard at bank, who opens the door for you to walk through, be grateful.
To the ushers at church, be grateful.
To the maid in your home, be grateful.
To the people in your life, be grateful.
To God in whose hand is your life, be grateful. … More Let’s Talk About Gratitude

4 Pointers to Help You Handle Rejection

Often, the first reactions to rejection, especially if your hopes for a positive response were quite high, are shock and denial. Denial is a defense mechanism that involves a refusal to accept reality, thus blocking external events from awareness. The human mind tends to respond by refusing to acknowledge rejection or by denying that it did happen.

Except you were unjustly rejected, in which case it is necessary to take action towards rebuttal, begin to move past the feeling of denial and get to a point where you can begin to deal with the situation. … More 4 Pointers to Help You Handle Rejection

The Cost of Familiarity

Yes, you’ve seen these people at their best and worst moments: you’ve seen them laugh and cry. You’ve seen them pull of their shirts when there’s heat. You’ve seen them confused. Maybe you’ve even seen them snore or fart!
But you should learn to ignore their weakness/humanity. Learn to respect their ingenuity, strengths, and wisdom. Learn to submit to them and get things solved.
That solution or improvement you desire in your career, relationship, spiritual growth, attitude, behavior/habit and so on may just be around you. That friend of yours whom you laugh together all the time may have the solution. Your boyfriend/girlfriend may know the way out. That lady/guy who is younger than you may know just what you need. … More The Cost of Familiarity