Life has an interesting way of moulding people into the unique individuals they become. The choice, however, lies in our hands to either become better or worse. In my own journey, a major thing I’ve learnt is the fact that you don’t necessarily have to experience something yourself before you learn from it.
Sometimes, we just need to sit back, observe and garner experience from the imprints left by other peoples footsteps.
Why does it have to be this way?
Experiences, especially bad ones, are wounds and although wounds heal, they sometimes leave scars which never fade away.
Won’t it be better for you to not get hurt in the first place than to live with a scar for the rest of your Life? I believe the question has been answered
Below are a couple of life lessons I’ve been lucky enough to pick up during my later years as a teen. I hope you would ride along and learn too.
Ignorance is a price not worth paying. It is better to be aware, sooner than later.
1. Learn to Say No
Saying no is a word that is widely applicable in various situations. It could be said to distractions, people and even opportunities. Opportunities are things that we all pray for and are excited about but the question is are they all worthwhile?
If an opportunity is going to stop you from having enough sleep or effectively achieving a goal, then it is best to cut it off. In order to live an organized life, it is highly important for you as an individual to set your priorities right.
Let me take myself as a case study. I perform poetry but does that mean I should be on every platform? No. First of all, I should be able to relate to the purpose of the event I’m invited to perform.
Secondly, I need enough time for writing and memorising because creativity cannot be forced. So, if I was called on to perform at an event taking place in two weeks, what should I do? Say yes to please the person at the moment or turn down the offer because of the very little time given? Frankly, I would rather choose the latter.
Always remember it’s better to disappoint a person now than to let them down later.
Keep this mind though, Saying no doesn’t mean it has to be done in a rude or arrogant manner. It could be done in a very polite way like I’m sorry I won’t be able to make it, I have a lot on my plate this week. It’s as simple as that. A very easy recipe to save yourself unnecessary stress and undue pressure.
2. Confidence is Essential
Everyone heading in a particular direction, with a specific purpose needs a vital tool- Confidence. Why?
Nobody is going to believe in you if you don’t, first of all, believe in yourself.
That’s just the hard truth.
For which reason would I buy a particular product, relate to a particular vision or be interested in a particular service if the individual himself is not confident in what he has to offer. Confidence is key in any success story and it cannot be overemphasized.
However, this tool is not just a facade to put up whenever you want to. It is a skillset that starts from within. So, invest in yourself. Let’s say you want to be more confident in a particular craft or art, Practice! If you want to be more confident in the career you are pursuing, gain the knowledge and experience. That’s the way to go.
3. You Only Really Get by Giving
There is more gain when you give than when you receive.
Receiving is just receiving; there is nothing more to it than what it is. When I speak of giving, I’m not just talking about giving in the context of money and material possessions. I’m talking about giving in terms of morals, principles and the right conduct.
The best way to make a person comply with how you want them to treat you is to set an example of how you want to be treated. If you want to command respect show people respect first. If you want to be greeted with a smile, initiate one.
Next time you desire to see a change in a person, give the change you seek to see and eventually the result which you seek will become a reality because you only truly get by first of all giving.
4. People Don’t Define You…God does
I spoke about confidence earlier. It all starts from here. Knowing your identity and allowing who created you to define you. If you want to know about a Dell brand, the best place to get the information you need is from the one who manufactured it and not necessarily from the brand itself. Also, would you go looking for the manufacturer of apple or Toshiba to receive an explanation for Dell? Not at all. So, with this example set as a point of reference, isn’t it funny how most people define themselves based on other peoples opinions instead of God’s. Who should know better, the created or the creator?
No matter what people say to me or about me. The indispensable truth is that my worth is found in Christ, so why should I cower in shame and low self-esteem when I am the daughter of a king. And why should you too?
5. Learn, Don’t Fail
Anytime you go through a situation and find yourself on the not so bright side. Don’t be tempted to utter the words I have failed. Choose to say I have learned instead.
The difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is a difference in perspective. Choose to have the mindset of a winner and learner and not a failure. Because you are definitely not one.
Compared to all the life lessons that could be possibly garnered. These are just a few amongst the lot. However, knowledge is power, so be it a few or a lot I hope this has impacted you in some way to live a more fearless life. Cheers!
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