Dealing with Heartbreak

Relationships are like glass. Sometimes, it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.

Getting over a broken heart can take a lot of energy, work and time. It’s like quicksand; it takes and takes. You might think you’re over it, then the memories filter through your eyes. The scenes play like the fairytale you imagined; the happily-ever-after narrative. You get washed up with feelings all over again.

It can take a long time, and that’s okay. Be gentle on yourself, don’t try to listen to overhead voices chanting “just get over it”.

The heart is a very interesting organ. It’s the only broken organ that works. Surprising? I bet.

The funny thing about a broken heart is that it’s not fatal. Though you wish in vain that it were, life continues, and you have no choice but to move on.

The heart will break…but broken live on.

What Does Heartbreak Mean?

In reality, heartbreak is a grieving process and it appears completely different for everyone. It’s not an exclusive VIP event, at one point or the other, most people if not all have had a fair dose of its sting.

Heartbreak is overwhelming mental anguish or grief caused by loss or disappointment.

The psychological feeling appears to be both physical and emotional. A study shows us the area responsible for interpreting physical pain, which is the brain is not left out in this woe.

How Does Heartbreak Hit?

You are not broken, you were opened up to birth new beginnings. The deep inside of you was delved into a journey to find more.

The relationship was not just there to cause pain. It was there to help you evolve through this journey of life. Learn to love and learn to let go. Find some solace in the fact that it happened.

You sometimes feel numb trying to relive memories, a love full of lifelong promises had come to an abrupt end.

This situation could be mentally exhausting, a catalyst of depression, rejection, loneliness and a loss of yourself.

Heartbreak is a psychological experience for the mind and body. You find out what you are made of when you have a broken heart.

Life breaks all of us sometimes, but some grow strong at broken places.

How long does it take to get over heartbreak?

How long does it take to pick up the million little heart shattered pieces and move on?

Only time can heal your broken heart.

Studies have been compiled, but it depends.\

Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.

Marilyn Monroe

There’s no fixed time. It might happen now or later, you have a role to play in getting over it.

In reality, sometimes, all you need is a broken heart to realize that something even better is right in front of your eyes, just wanting to be found. The earlier you drop old flames to carry on a new fire.

How to get over heartbreak

Cast out old flames and rise from a valley of dry bones.

It’s time to move on!

Here are a few tips to help:

1. Love yourself

Be true enough to your being. Feel the process, understand your feelings but don’t become your feelings, don’t break into fragments. You can’t make someone love you. All you can do is to be someone who can be loved, it’s up to the person to realize your worth.

This is a period to dote heavily on your self – love.

Don’t berate yourself about not being ‘good enough’

2. Find peace from above

The heart was made by God, develop a relationship with Him. Tell it all to Him, ask for healing.

3. Get over it!

As plain as it sounds, get over it, but take your time. Give yourself abundant space to heal.

The journal of Experimental psychology highlights on coping strategies.

If you want to cry, grieve, wail, you are eligible to. Just burn that bridge.

Don’t keep this narrative when you decide to love again.

4. Don’t stalk your ex, steer clear!

I wish I could write this with a reverberating tone. Cut off all means of communication. Drain this toxic act from your healing process.

I understand social media can play the devil here, especially when you get a notification that they are getting married, or having a baby, and you start wondering if you will ever find anyone as good as them or you shouldn’t have let go.

Remember, things end because something else is ready to begin.

5. Find a support system

Everyone needs a shoulder to lean on. Speak about it, it gets the weight off your chest.

But make this support system a family or close friend, same-sex preferably.

6. Set up new routines

Indeed, it’s normal to have stuff you do together, you probably see movies on last Thursdays of the month or read a book together. Well, that has changed. Set up new models on how to spend your time.

7. Explore

You might have had to drop certain activities while in the relationship. If they are positive ones, it’s time to get back on track.

8. Find closure

Give yourself a mental explanation for what happened, they might end it abruptly but end that note. Keep the good memories and move on.

9. Reflect on positive things

It’s a season to evolve, don’t just gallop into a new relationship, it won’t help your healing process.

Pick up lessons and turn towards the bright side.


Ending a relationship is never easy. Love is the hardest drug to quit but it’s even harder when it is taken away.

Heartbreak may feel like the world is at its end.

News flash – pain won’t last forever and certainly, you will love again. Sending love, peace, and light across to you.

Have you ever had to deal with heartbreak? How did you get over it? feel free to share with me and also share this post with others.


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