Teens Meet Outreach

Getting over a break up can be one of the most unpleasant situation ever, especially when it involves heartbreak. Yea, not all break ups cause heart breaks, some can be very liberating and relieving. However, when a break up causes heart breaks, it can be one of the most terrible feelings in the world. It feels as though the world is coming to an end, as though the feeling would never go away, as though things would never go back to normal. The pain can get so unbearable that you almost begin to feel it physically. You are so hurt that you really do not think that you can ever love again.

Calm down baby, it isn’t that bad.

The world hasn’t come to an end, the feeling would go away, you’ll be normal again, you will love again. YOU WILL BE FINE! Does that make you feel better? Okay, maybe not really, even though they are all true. Because I understand how you feel and I understand that a few encouraging words wont always do the trick, I’ll be sharing with you a few tips on how to get over that painful break up:

Truth is, the pain would go away but it wouldn’t go immediately. Allow yourself feel the pain. This is an important part of healing. Don’t bottle it all up and move on with life, pretending to be fine. You won’t heal that way. Allow yourself feel the pain. Cry if you need to, write about it, pray about it, eat ice cream (that works too, #winks) just let it all out somehow. Don’t just shove it down.

2. Understand that the pain you feel is temporary

This realization is one of your vehicles to quick recovery. I know it doesn’t feel that way right now but you need to understand that what you are feeling won’t last forever. A day would come when you’d realize you haven’t thought about your ex in weeks and even when you remember him/her, it wouldn’t even hurt. Yes, that time would come. You need to believe that if you are going to see it.

3. Take your pain to God

This is something else that works. You know that feeling when you are going through a difficult time and you meet someone who has gone through the same thing you are going through. Well, newsflash! No one has experienced heart break more than God. Imagine giving your own son to die for the one you love (you probably need to first imagine the magnitude of this kind of love). Imagine your son dying at the hands of the one you love, imagine giving everything only to be stabbed in the back, over and over and over.

God went through this. Hence, there’s no amount of heart break you’re experiencing that He hasn’t felt.
When you hand your broken heart to God, when you open yourself up to Him, you allow Him heal you gradually.
He helps you sort through all those confused feelings and helps you deal with them so that when you finally get over the heartbreak, there’ll be no trace of bitterness, low self esteem or any of the ugly residues that heartbreaks can leave a person with.