Rejection is trying hard to be accepted by people who think they are better than you. They string you along because they enjoy your attention. Rejection is when you are not accepted by those who you loved, those who you thought were very close to you but in the long run, they only needed you for some time and after you’ve done what you’re needed for, you’re discarded.
As humans, due to our social nature, we cannot exist in total isolation and that is why we’re often downcast with rejection due to the need for constant interaction with humans.
Rejection to different people in different areas of life is part of what makes us humans because without being rejected, you won’t know which friend is toxic, where you are doing wrong and what you should upgrade in yourself.
Some examples of where rejection is likely to occur include:
2. Job interviews
3. Peer pressure
5. Business dealings
6. Social rejection
7. Parental rejection
We all experience it, and yet, those times when we do are often the times we feel the most alone, outcast, and unwanted. In fact, so much of the hurt and struggle we endure isn’t even based on the loss itself but on what we tell ourselves about the experience, the cruel ways we put ourselves down or how we flood ourselves with hopeless thoughts about the future.
Ways to Deal with Rejection
Here are a few points to help you deal with rejection when you are faced with one:
1. Rejection doesn’t literally mean we’re hated
Proverbs 3vs 12: because the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in.
Sometimes, some disapproval, shout, rant is not because we’re hated but for love. Though the child might feel rejected at that instance but if they look critically at it, they’d see that it was meant for corrections, not for hate.
2. Rejections are meant to build us
That we’re rejected by the opposite sex when we propose a romantic relationship to them doesn’t mean we’re not good enough or we’re ugly but they’re just not interested. That shouldn’t make us hate ourselves but rather help us carry ourselves with more charisma that gives us the opportunity to meet other people and be accepted. But if you go around feeling hate, then your opportunity to get to meet people who deserve you is truncated.
3. Some people are naturally toxic
Some people’s rejection isn’t because you’re not good enough or you are bad at it but it’s the rejecter that’s toxic and if you constantly put up with this kind of people, your self-esteem is lowered continuously. Some job interviews are not because you’re not good; it could be that the interviewer just hates you or don’t want you in the company.
4. Look inward and make corrections
Some rejection, say from parents, are meant for you to look inward and make corrections, or you’d regret the choice of not making it. Life without rejection will be boring because you’re not perfect and rejection gives a quick check and a call to order for you.
5. Feel rejection
It’s important to allow ourselves to feel the sadness or anger that’s stirred up in us when we feel rejected. Some of these feelings may go deeper because they trigger old, core emotions. We may be afraid to feel these emotions because of this and therefore, steer more toward attacking ourselves or the person who rejected us on a surface level.
We can always choose how we act, and while we shouldn’t allow our feelings to take over how we behave, we shouldn’t try to shut them off entirely.
A more adaptive strategy may involve allowing ourselves the freedom to feel our emotions while remembering that feelings come in waves and should be minimal because too much of everything is bad.
Rejection is part of our daily lives, and in one way or the other, we are rejected, be it socially or otherwise. Whichever way it comes, feel it but don’t allow it to weigh you down; make corrections and be responsible and accountable about it; move from toxic people and surround yourself with those that appreciate you; build up yourself and see life with a bright smile each day.
Have you ever be faced with rejection? How did you deal with it? Feel free to share in the comments below.
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