On Being a Self-Confident Teen- Part 1

Self Confidence is different from self-esteem which is an evaluation of one’s own worth. It is trust in one’s ability to achieve a goal. As believers, there are certain things that have been made available for us and that we should be confident about, such as our redemption, sanctification, justification, eternal life and forgiveness of sins.

Self Confidence is very important in all aspects of our lives, yet so many people struggle to find it. It is very important that you are confident in yourself and in all you do because people who lack self-confidence can find it difficult to become successful.

Your level of confidence can show in many ways, your body language, how you speak, what you say and so on.

When you’re self-confident, you do what you believe to be right even if others mock or criticize you for it, you admit your mistakes and learn from them, you accept compliments graciously, you’re willing to take risks and go the extra mile to achieve better things.

When you’re not confident in yourself, you govern your behaviour based on what people think, you stay in your comfort zone so as to avoid taking risks, you work hard to cover up mistakes and hope that you can fix it before anyone notices, which won’t help you learn from that mistake.

Two main things contribute to self-confidence: Self-efficacy and self-esteem.

Self-efficacy is when you see yourself as similar to others. You’re confident that if you learn and work hard in a particular area, you’ll succeed and this is the type of confidence that enables people to accept difficult challenges and persists in the face of setbacks.

Self-efficacy helps you to see no one as better than you and that you can also do as much and even more than others do, in particular, things when you work at it. This overlaps with the idea of self-esteem.

This is the sense that we believe in ourselves, to be competent at what we do and that we are behaving virtuously. It is having the sense that we can cope with what’s going on in our lives and that we have the right to be happy.

Now there are cases of people being “underconfident” or “overconfident”. Self Confidence is about balance. At one extreme, we have people with low self-confidence and at the other extreme, we have people that are overconfident. If you’re underconfident, you’ll avoid taking risks and stretching yourself and you might not try at all. If you’re overconfident, you may take on too many risks and stretch yourself beyond your capabilities and crash eventually.

It is very important that you get the balance right and have the right amount of confidence.

Biblically, we know that our self worth is rooted in Christ. You can’t increase or decrease your value by changing your appearance, increasing your possession or getting more people to like you. This may boost your overall belief about your self-worth but it doesn’t change your actual self-worth which is in Christ.

As believers, our identity is in Christ. And the thing about most believers is that they do not know what they have in Christ and as such live less of their identity. They do not and are not confident in the fact that they have power over the devil and as such allow the devil to ride them anyhow.

They do not know the fact that they have the power to heal the sick and raise the dead and as such life as slaves to sickness.

We have so many things that have been made available for us through Christ Jesus. It is just our own duty to plunge into what we have already had access to and live as the person we really are.

We have the holy spirit as believers and should be confident in the fact that the holy spirit is always ready to guide and lead us aright. We need not be scared of the future because God holds our future. We need not be scared of death because we already have eternal life through Jesus. We need not be scared of healing the sick because we have been given power and authority to tramp on sicknesses.

So as believers, we are confident in the fact that we’ve got God on our side. And if God is for us, then who can be against us? I really don’t want anyone to see himself or herself as inferior to anyone. You can be as successful as you want to be, once you’re diligent with everything you’re doing. God has purposes for our lives, and he has confidence in us that we can carry out that purpose.

If God is confident in you, you really should not doubt yourself, cos you have the ability to achieve, and fulfil God’s plan for your life.


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