In the last part of this series, I mentioned balancing “underconfidence” and “overconfidence” and how self-efficacy and self-esteem contribute to self-confidence. You can read up here:
How then do you build your Self-Confidence?
1. Place a higher value on what God thinks about you than what men think about you.
What men think about you does not matter as much as what God thinks about you.
This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t heed to sincere corrections. It doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t get godly advice from people. It means that you should value what God thinks above what men think.
In life, there are people to guide and direct your steps, these people are not in control of you. God is. So, value what God says above what any man says.
2. Visualize yourself as you want to be.
Do not live your life as a pattern after someone else’s life. Fine, we have mentors and role models and this doesn’t mean you can’t learn a thing or two from them, it means that you should be unique to yourself.
Do you. Don’t do things because your friends are doing it. Do it for yourself and the goals you want to achieve.
3. Affirm and accept yourself.
Affirmations are positive and uplifting statements we say to ourselves. These are normally more effective when said aloud so that you can hear it yourself. Accept yourself as you are. Accept your weaknesses and work on them, and likewise, know your strengths. You’re not a perfect being. You have your weaknesses too, but they shouldn’t tie you down. Instead, work on your weaknesses and become a better person. Know your strengths too and be true to who you are.
4. Set yourself up to win.
Do not give up, thinking things are impossible. Instead, start by setting goals that you can easily achieve and on to the complex goals.
Do not give yourself more than you can chew. Let everything be done, one step at a time.
Set short term goals and long term goals. What do you wish to have become in the next one, two, three years? Write it down. Where do you want to be in 10 years time? Write it down too.
Read: How to Hit Your Goals as a Teenager.
Read: How to Set and Achieve Your Goals Without Giving Way for Procrastination
5. Get more knowledge, read wide.
There’s a popular saying by Airtel Telecom that Life evolves, you should too. Don’t be mediocre in your thinking. Read as much as you can. Learn from people. Make sure you gain something new every day. Build up yourself. Feed on the word, persist in the place of prayer. Be Prayerful. Be diligent. Be yourself. Enhance your knowledge.
6. Help someone else.
Help to build someone’s else’s confidence. When you see how much better the person has become as time goes on, it’ll help build you up the more, because of the happiness you’ll feel by making a person better. It is important that you do not hoard things to yourself. Help others with what you know.
Lastly, Create personal boundaries. Learn to say No. it is not all propositions you accept, but don’t forcefully say yes to something in fear of what people will say. Stay true to yourself and learn to say no.
In conclusion, you’re worth more than what you can imagine. You are unique in your own way. You are as much good and relevant as everyone else, so don’t feel inferior to others. See yourself the way God sees you.
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