Forgiveness means to pardon or waive any negative feeling or desire for punishment. It is letting go of all feelings of resentment towards a person who has offended you.
Forgiving yourself is simply letting go of the past. It is identifying the limiting belief or negative emotion you’ve attached to certain things or events, it is moving on.
For most people, forgiving yourself is harder than forgiving others. When you don’t forgive others it becomes resentment and anger and when you don’t forgive yourself, it becomes shame and guilt.
It doesn’t matter who you used to be, or what you used to do, what matters now is who you decide to be. You can sit there forever lamenting about how bad you’ve been, feeling guilty until you die and not one tiny slice of guilt will do anything to change your past or to make you a better person today.
Guilt is toxic, reliving the mistake over and over is damaging, we need to learn to forgive others in order to heal and move on.
In order to forgive yourself you need to :
1. Realize that the past is the past, absolutely nothing will change it.
2 Realize that you did the best you could at the time, don’t beat yourself up for not knowing what you didn’t know until you lived through it. That’s your journey, learn, grow, evolve.
3. Identify your biggest regrets, they help you mark the areas you want to amend and those you want to let go of the most.
4. Tackle the big ones. Once you identify them, begin to slowly and deliberately deal with them.
5. Move toward self-love and cut yourself some slack. Rome wasn’t built in a day, realize that making mistakes is a part of growth, we all make mistakes. Show yourself some compassion, learn to speak to yourself with love and kindness and to put yourself as a priority.
Choose everyday to forgive yourself, you are human, flawed and most of all worthy of love -Alison Malee
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